The only way to be creative is through inspiration from the world around us. There are endless amounts of music, books, and art that drive creativity and passion for writing. When I sit down to write a wedding ceremony, I’m always inspired by something I’ve seen, read, watched, or listened to.
Writing a good wedding ceremony requires honing in on those little moments of revelation and blending that into the pieces I know about a couple. Each month, I’ll start sharing what I’m reading, watching or listening to (and my co-officiants, too!) to shed some light on my creative process. To celebrate the end of the decade and bring some inspiration to all you folks out there either engaged, married or even other wedding vendors, here’s a roundup of what I’ve been inspired by this month:
I consumed the pages in this book like I’ve never read a novel in my life. This book focuses on a family whose son has gender dysmorphia and the tribulations they endure to encourage him to be himself. Anyone in the wedding industry that’s LGBTQ-focused should absolutely read this. It will make you cry and open your eyes to the challenges of growing up in a society that repeatedly tries to label our actions as one gender or another.
Don’t even get me started on how insanely talented Pixar is. I’ve been listening to this book on audio while driving and working for the past month or so. It’s not the most engaging book I’ve ever listened to, but that’s not because of the content (it’s the reader). I adore hearing about Pixar’s creative process and the frustration behind working with Steve Jobs. A fantastic read for anyone in a creative industry or just genuinely curious about the creative field.
Elizabeth L. Cline
This book is not related to writing or weddings, but I enjoy reading books about different fields. Also, did you know we create an ethical clothing line? (Part of my attraction to reading this) If you’re curious about how the fashion industry is destroying the planet, this is a great read. On the other hand, it’s also an eye-opening novel to anyone trying to shop more sustainably. Know where you’re getting your products. Know how they’re made. Care a bit about where your products come from.
Arabesque — Coldplay
Yes, I’m a huge Coldplay fan. I haven’t seen them live yet, so if you buy me tickets to their show, I’ll officiate your wedding for free. This song particularly gets me inspired and fired up to write because of its combination of French and English and the build up to the end of the song.
Lover — Taylor Swift
If you don’t know that I’m Taylor Swift’s number one by fan by now, do you even know me? Is some of her music cheesy? Yes, and that’s why I love it. I love everything about her and all the bulls*** she’s gone through. You can’t deny that she’s one of the best lyricists out there. What I love most about this song is its ability to hone in on the greatest part of songwriting and writing in general — writing from the truth.
Timeless — Blurstem
A beautiful piano melody that will bring you through various emotions within two and a half minutes. The piece starts off quiet and slowly rises into its dramatic ending. When I’m brainstorming themes for a ceremony, I love to begin writing to this work. It calms me, lets me think and puts me in the creative and inspired mood.
Film and Television
I watched this film on a flight back from France, thinking it would put me to sleep. Instead, I ended up crying the few hours it was playing awkwardly in the middle seat on the flight. This film is difficult to find in the US, but if you can snatch it, it’s heartbreakingly beautiful. It’s rare that I find films to cry in. This is one of them.
I hated Adam Driver in Girls. His character was horrible. Going into this film, I thought I would hate him just as much, but I didn’t. I know that I marry people for a living, but the truth of marriage is that yes, sometimes it does end. Do I want any of the couples I marry to divorce? Absolutely not. But sometimes, heartbreak can be a beautiful way to lead us into the next phases in our lives. Heartbreak changes us. This film does an exceptional job of honestly showing what a divorce is like and how life really does continue afterwards.
I watched this entire series when I had the flu, again assuming I would fall asleep during it (see a running theme here?). I didn’t. Some of the episodes are cringy to watch (see the daddy episode), but isn’t life like that, too? There’s a lot of s*** we don’t want to see in life, and yet, we still witness it. That’s what I loved about this show. It’s honest. It doesn’t show love in a way that makes us all believe in fairytales because love isn’t that. Love isn’t falling in love with someone only to spend a life with them. We can fall in love with anyone. That’s the beauty of life.
So, there’s my monthly roundup of what’s inspiring my writing. Tell me in the comments — what are you reading, watching or listening to?
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